Living someone else’s idea of life is part of what has caged many people. It’s categorized by the constant need to be what someone else approves of, and when things go wrong, because sometimes they will, you begin to have regrets. Of course, sometimes you could regret your own decisions but it’s easier to accept that they were mistakes you made while pursuing your authentic goals. Making necessary changes to your way of life involves a conscious effort to do the things that make you happy and are your personal decisions.
To be responsible for your own decisions and live a happier life, you need to be in charge of your time. Learning to prioritize the things that matter to you will help you accomplish a lot. Most of the time, distractions are everywhere around us and it seems like life is just moving too fast. Slow down! Time is one of the most important assets that you have, so use it judiciously on the things that matter, some of which are relationships. Building great relationships will help you feel more fulfilled in the long run.
The world is very materialistic, they worry about accumulating wealth and fulfilling insatiable wants like driving the latest cars, or wearing the latest trend. There’s nothing wrong with wanting some of those things but it’s important to not allow them to be the major focus, if not, you’ll spend your time and resources on things that won’t give you any sense of real fulfillment.
Relationships on the other hand help you to grow and be happier. In Maslow's pyramid of needs according to psychology experts, having basic needs is simply a means to an end. The comfort that it brings is assumed to help you fulfill the greater needs on that scale, and having successful relationships is one of them. That’s something that will stand the test of time and make your happiness long-lasting, unlike cars and clothes that constantly change their appeal.
In building relationships, you tend to build yourself all around. Understanding that it is important to consider how your words and actions affect others will help you to be more accountable to yourself. If you hold yourself accountable, then you will observe that others around you will also try to be accountable for themselves. When you’re focused on being better, that version of you will be a better person to the people around you. Your joy will know no bounds when you see how much progress you constantly make and you will feel more fulfilled than you ever have in your life.
It’s not selfish to focus on the things that make you happy in life. There’s nothing to be gained by living your life according to someone else’s standards and beliefs when there’s no black and white approach to our very diverse lives. Life is a personal journey, and it’s yours that you are ultimately responsible for. Learn to discipline yourself both personally and professionally, it will go a long way in helping you to be accountable.
Also, avoid any reason to hate another person, it honestly does you more harm than that person you hate. Instead, love yourself enough to let things go and you’ll see life in a completely different and fulfilling way.